Messy Mom: Therapist Unfiltered

Will it be ok mama?

Yes, it will be ok?

Often when we do hard things we seek out connection. Creating and making connections is where we find the reassurance to keep going.

When challenging times occur if we dont have these connections in place…the emotional scramble begins. We will can either start seeking with desperate intention or diminish our worth and retreat to the numbing emotional pain.

Let’s try something different:

Create connections continually and seek out meaning in relationships.

Ok…what does that actually look like?

  1. Mindful connections
  2. Attune to your personal needs.
  3. Integrate curiosity into daily living

Mindful connections

Mindfulness can be an awareness of your own emotions while simultaneously attuning to the feelings of others

“You look sad, can I notice your sad feelings/thoughts?”

Making connections by increasing awareness

Assessing and attuning to your personal needs:

What do you need from this relationship?

What are capable of giving to this connection?

Do you need to clarify your needs in order to feel connected?

Intragrate curiosity into everyday life

What ate things you notice about others you want to cultivate in yourself?

Ask questions of others as you seek out way to discover connections with others.

Almost always we need these positive  attachment experiences to help us overcome challenges in life. If we are building them continually we are able to have more resilience when emotional challenges occur.